Updated: Sep 25, 2020
I spent days trying to write about self-acceptance, but even with plenty of material to research, I still had a hard time coming up with something to write about. I suppose you could say I was experiencing writer’s block.
I spent a couple of days researching what other people were saying, and I ran across a quote from Kris Carr, a New York Times best-selling author of Crazy Sexy Diet and Crazy Sexy Cancer Survivor and a wellness activist. It said, “Accepting yourself simply means that you actively decide to love yourself fully –– ALL of yourself, no matter what. I know that can feel like a tall order, but I believe it's our true purpose. When you accept yourself, you step into your power.”
Still feeling like I was in a rut, I spent a few days in meditation and practiced self-Reiki to help me move through this blockage.
It was during one of my self-Reiki sessions that I heard my soul-voice ask, “Do you fully accept yourself?” I answered back, “Of course I do! I love myself in the good, messy, and even in the “eat a pint of ice cream and binge-watch Netflix moments” I love and accept all parts of me!” But, I could feel a little nudge at the edge of my awareness. I knew that something in my consciousness wanted me to look in its direction.
I became curious, “Did I fully and unconditionally accept myself?” I decided that I needed to explore this concept, and during my inner journey, I came to realize that the truth is, I did not fully accept myself. I sat with that feeling and intuitively started to say a positive affirmation whenever I noticed myself feeling uncomfortable. The affirmation that came to mind was, “I accept and love myself for who I am.”
Positive affirmations enact change in the brain and help shift negative mindsets. Reiki pairs very well with positive affirmations. Affirmations can be used during a session just as one would use a mantra while meditating. It gives the receiver a positive focal point to deepen into, especially when uncomfortable emotions start to bubble up or when we need to quiet our chattering monkey mind.
The one thing I ask of my clients during a Reiki session is just to be open to it. Just like Reiki, positive affirmations only work if one is open to it. The classic saying of, “Fake it until you make it ” isn’t always right, especially if one does not resonate with the affirmation. I find the most effective positive affirmations are not ones found in books or on the internet but ones that come from deep within.
A simple technique for finding the right affirmations for you is to list a few qualities that you consider negative about yourself. Focus on being aware of what feelings show up in
your body. Make a note of any emotions surrounding the negative quality. I have a reoccurring negative quality of not feeling good enough, and I feel it in my solar plexus as a tightness.
The next step is to write something positive in regards to the negative quality. It could be the opposite, such as I am good enough. However, after taking the time to feel into my negative quality, I found that I resonated with I AM capable.
Once you have a positive affirmation that feels right, repeat it, repeat it, repeat it! Try writing your positive affirmation on a sticky note and place it on your bathroom mirror. Say it aloud several times in the morning while getting ready for the day and in the evening before retiring to bed to help reinforce the new belief. You can also use it during a distance or in-person Reiki session, allowing yourself to deepen into the new belief. If you are interested or have any questions, feel free to schedule a complimentary call or message me.
Enjoy! And as always, be well, be safe and be radiant!